Loose Lips Sink Ships

This post has been mulling around in my head for quite some time. But recently there was a ... statement made on the MilSpouse forum I belong to which has prompted me to write.
I want to start off by saying that the feelings I am expressing, like always, are entirely my own, and what it right for me, and are not intended to be a criticism or condemnation of anyone else, or choices they may have made.

If you are a regular here, you will notice that the countdown clock is gone, and the time clocks have had their labels modified.

I sometimes think that being around the Wolf, and part of this lifestyle, has made me completely paranoid. I am so used to referring to him in "code" - DF - or by his initial, or as "the Wolf" in any on-line forum, and not posting anything at all to his FaceBook page, that sometimes I can't have "normal" conversations with people, even people that have know us both since high school.

I will never put pictures of myself on this blog, or pictures of him, or any children in our lives. I will never use his real name, or my own. It is just not something I am comfortable with. It is not that I am "uptight", and concerned with DND regulations on the subject. I am, however, very aware of how easy it is to mine information if you are determined, and I would never want to be the one who was part of the chain that led to information that put anything or anyone in danger.

I have a really good slide deck somewhere that illustrates how easy it is to take small pieces of information from unrealated sites, and piece them together into something that is useable - If I can find it, I will come back and post it.

The issue on the on-line forum I go to had to do with someone posting their loved one's actual departure date from the country. I completely understand the urge to do it; you don't think you are hurting anything; you know you are talking to people who understand, and you need to share your pain, you emotions. I have done it myself; likely on the forum, and I had the coutdown clock here.

I also know, from watching the forum list of who is on-line, that there is someone who's screen name is "Mr Bitter" who never posts, just "lurks" and reads. Now I assume Mr Bitter is, honestly, just someone who is, well, bitter. But what if Mr Bitter is Bitter enough that s/he would actually take info, figure out something from it, and do "something bad"?
Better safe than sorry. So I will remain the Crow, or Basinah to you all, my wonderful friends. My heart will continue to jump a little when I see pictures of your children on your blogs. Even you, my wonderful civilian friends.

My father was a police officer; he once said to me that if someone is determined to do something bad they will find a way.

But it doesn't mean I have to be part of making it easy for them.