Gretchen Rubin writes a blog (and now a book) called The Happiness Project. I have decided it is time to start my own personal Happiness Project.
Now some of you might think that my timing is a bit odd, since 2 nights ago the Wolf basically dumped me. But you see, I have decided that he is lying to himself, and I am not going to believe his lie. Some of you might call this "denial". I call it "positive thinking".
Let me explain.
First of all, everyone I have discussed this with (other MilSpouses, my counselor, another career military friend, various friends) agrees that this is a completely wierd decision on the Wolf's part, and the result of pre-deployment stress and seperation anxiety. No one thinks he really means it.
In the tone of some of those books that Oprah has made popular, I believe you create your own reality with your thougths; that if you think something, and act like it is true, it will become true. So I have decided that the Wolf has suffered a moment of temporary panic, and done something rash, and that he will come to his senses, overcome his pride, and admit he might have said something he didn't actually mean.
Just like it is entirely possible that by my fretting and worrying earlier, I attracted the negative energy, and may have "led the witness" to his temporary insanity.
I was at a workshop tonight, ran by the woman that runs our local Family Support Group. The workshop was on Visualization and Stress (Coping techniques). One of the exercises she did with us used Angel Cards. The question I meditated on was how to find peace with what was going on with the Wolf. The card I drew was "Delight". This made no sense to me at the time, but I have decided I am going to go with it, and "fake it 'till I make it".
So I am going to be happy. The Wolf started an on-line scrabble game with my tonight, so he still accepts a connection. I am going to be happy, not badger him, and just go with the flow. I truly believe if I give him the time he needs, he will come to his own peace with this as well, and we can start to get past it.
Send me your positive thoughts, friends. Help me build my happiness project.
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
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I have read a lot about the Happiness Project, kudos to you for trying to bring it into your life. I truly believe the more positive you are the better life is. No one can be "happy" all the time, but we can be positive. In some of my darkest moments and toughest situations, I've tried to stay positive and find something positive about the situations. It has helped me imensely to be this way.
ReplyDeleteI hope the positve, happy attitude is a great thing, and I hope the Wolf in time will understand and see that you have been there for him all along. Keep being the amazing woman you are and keep the positive happy attitude! *hugs*