Confused

So the Wolf called last night, and the beginning of the conversation was great.  He has a few days of leave to burn off, so he can take some time to spend with me while I am out there.  Things went like that for the first 10 minutes or so, and then he said to me "Are you still sure you want to come out?"

Me: Ya, why, is there a reason I wouldn't?

Wolf: Well, I've been thinking, and I've been wresting with this for a while.  But every time I get deployed, if I am in a relationship, there is drama, and I just don't want to deal with it.  I know I am blaming you for things other women have done and that's not fair, but I have this baggage, and I just can't put it down.

Me (in shock at this point): OK, slow down; are you dumping me?

Wolf: Ya, if you want to be blunt, I guess I am.

I talked to him a bit longer, but I can't give you a blow by blow because I was, and still am, in shock.

He claims to think he is "broken" and that he can't have a normal relationship, or feel what love is supposed to be.  I tried to tell him that there are no "normal" relationships, and what does he think love is "supposed to be", but I couldn't get and answer that made sense to me.


I think, may be wishfully, that this is just an extreme example of the pre-deployment separation reaction.  

I know I still love him.  I know that not being "officially" a couple is not going to make me worry about him or miss him any less.  It just adds an extra layer of stress to it, and takes away the looking forward to the reunions.  


I don't know if I need face-to-face closure.  My gut says to cancel my plane tickets and give him the space he needs to work through this.  My head doesn't currently have an opinion; it is not working.  My heart wants to be held and told it is all a bad dream.  


Right now I am thinking I will wait, and see if he changed his mind, or at least will talk some more.  I will not be "moving on" any time soon, and I will tell him that.


Watch this space for further updates ....