If you can't handle me at my worst ...

I've been told I think too much.


There's  quote attributed to Marilyn Monroe that says

“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” 

Is there a corollary thought that if someone doesn't want to share themselves when they are at their worst, that they think you don't deserve them?

Is it like this quote?

“Protecting people from the truth is another way of shutting them out.” ― Blaize Clement

Am I over thinking things, yet again?  Is it just basic human pride?  Or need to not show our "bad side" to the people we love, a fear of being judged, that is primal rather than rational?

Honestly, we all have many sides, and we chose, consciously or unconsciously, which sides are seen by which people in our lives.  So is "protecting" someone from your "bad side" ... or in this particular case, your "drunken douche bag side" ... a sign of mis-trust, or a sign of caring?


If we don't share "our worst" - our weaknesses, our bad days, the days when we act like spoiled 2 year olds or clueless teenagers - are we teaching the people we love that we expect them to do the same?  Hide from us the parts of our personality that we fear they may not like?


I guess this is the same, in some ways, as cleaning your place when you know someone is coming over.  Heaven forbid that people know you sometimes leave dishes in the sink, or your socks on the floor.  What might they think?  Even the people you love; you want them to see your best.


Ya, I think I am over thinking this one.  Thanks for letting me think out loud.