So, it turns out I was allergic to the 2nd anti-depressant they tried with me, it just took it a couple of weeks to build up in my system enough to react. The first one gave me horrid side-effects, and this one I was allergic to. I was "borderline" for needing them in the first place, according to my therapist. The doc wanted to try a third one, but based on the way my body handles drugs I said "no thanks", I'll just keep seeing my therapist (who rocks) and working on things my own way.
As I was leaving the doctor's office, (after deciding to go off anti-depressant meds, keep in mind) my crackberry pinged at me. I had a Facebook message; all that comes up in the text was that it was from the Wolf's sister in law, and the message body started "call my mom ASAP - this is (the Wolf's nephew) call my mom's cell" and then the teaser stopped. Heart proceed directly to throat!!! I quickly downloaded the rest of the message. Turns out the Wolf's mom had been admitted to the hospital. Feel relief mixed with concern. It's not the Wolf.
I called SiL, and it seems that the Wolf's dad came home for lunch yesterday and found his mom unconscious on the floor. By the time EMS got there, she was not breathing either. The EMS got her on a ventilator, and rushed her to the local hospital, where she was further stabilized for transport to a larger medical center. She is still (24 hours later) unconscious and not breathing on her own; they have ruled out heart attack, stroke, and there is no bleeding in her brain. They don't have any answers for us at this point.
They called me in part to let me know, but also so I could get a hold of the Wolf. He has been in the forces for almost 20 years and they didn't know the procedure to reach him when he is deployed, had no clue how to even start. It is not just they were to distraught, to busy dealing with doctors and such. They didn't know how. I don't know about you, but if it was my son or my brother, I would make sure I knew how to reach him in an emergency.
Of course, I handled it. Called the local Padre, who I know fairly well, and activated the "purple net" as he calls it. Less that 5 hours later the Wolf was on the phone with his brother getting the update.
So now I sit and wait. Which, unfortunately, gives me time to think. I know it was the family's wishes that I get a hold of the Wolf, but was it the right thing, when they don't know anything yet, and he really can't do anything over there except sit and stew about it? Not that I can do anything from here either, not being a miracle worker or a doctor. Maybe I should have dragged my feet a bit? Too late now, I guess.
If she passes, I don't know if he will come home. Honestly I don't blame him a bit if he doesn't. She was not exactly a positive influence in his life, not a real "motherly" type at all. If he comes, it will be for his dad and his brother's sake, not for his own. My money is on him not coming. When SiL asked about if "they" would let him come home, I explained that it would depend on what was happening for missions at the time, if they could spare him, it too may others were home on leave, etc. They try to be compassionate, but the needs of the mission come before the needs of the individual. Which is all very true, but basically, I laid the ground work for him to say he "can't" come home, if that is what he chooses.
If nothing else, this might be a decent test of whether going off the meds was the right decision! Gotta find a bright side to things ... 
Sorry to hear about your MIL, but I understand your feeling of relief mixed with concern.
ReplyDeleteAnd for what it's worth (basically nothing, but that doesn't stop me), I think you did the right thing by contacting the Wolf straight away. What he does from here is his choice, and that's how it should be - regardless of how much you probably want to protect him.